It’s Payback Time: How To Get Revenge Against Your Ex Boyfriend
If you’re reading this article right now, I know how you’re feeling. You probably feel enraged or maybe even a little betrayed (depending on how stupid he decided to be). So now you want revenge on your ex boyfriend. Maybe you want to sleep with his best friend? Maybe you want to post those really embarrassing photos of him running naked through a day care on Facebook? Or maybe you want to call his mom and tell her about all the great things he’s done with her favorite cooking utensils. I know you want to do these things very badly.
I know what that’s like. But first, let me ask you something… Whatever you want to do to your ex boyfriend or whatever you want him to feel, ask yourself this… will this make me happy? Like… really happy? Of course the answer in the short term will be, “hell yes, that would make me happy!” But would it make you happy in the long term? Say you screwed his best friend tonight and you videotaped it with your iPhone and e-mailed it to him… Sure, you’d get a kick out of pissing him off for a week or two, but how long would this make you feel happy? A day? A week? A month? A year? Chances are, realistically, it wouldn’t make you happy for even a week… and karma has its way of biting you later in life. What you honestly need to do is not talk to your ex, or least don’t say some things you’ll regret to your ex. So my recommendation? Start dating other guys and forget about actively “getting revenge” on your ex. There are three huge reasons why this is good for both pissing your ex boyfriend off and taking the high road to long term happiness…
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1.) Dating around is fun.
Not only will you be taking your mind off your ex, but dating around can be one of the most enjoyable experiences of life! Yes, even if you go on a horrible date, it’s something to laugh about later in life… so go out and have fun!
2.) It clearly shows your ex that you’re happier without him (and that he’s easily replaceable).
Not only will you be making your ex boyfriend feel like crap, but you don’t have to do anything evil to get it done. Your conscience will thank you later.
It’s also always preferable to use actions rather than words to get back at an ex — if you start dating someone new, your ex will know about it and feel the pain of being easily replaceable, but you won’t have to rub it in his face with nasty text messages or confrontations.
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3.) It gives you the best shot at achieving long-term happiness.
While you’re out and about enjoying yourself, you never know… you could find the one sooner than you think! And there’s no greater happiness than this.Now that we’ve addressed that, here are a few reasons why true “revenge” is a actually a really bad idea.
First, chances are he probably won’t even care… or he’ll hate you even more than he already does. To be honest, more hate doesn’t really make the world any better. It will only cause you even more heartache and pain. Second, there’s a very good chance that he’ll want to get “revenge on your revenge” so to speak… and who knows what he might do? He might do something even worse to you. And thirdly, it’s just immature. To other people who don’t know you well, you’ll just like a psychotic freak (even though your ex boyfriend may very well deserve it.). Is it really worth losing the respect of your peers to do it? I know this isn’t what you had in mind when you read this article (you were probably expecting a list of ways on how to make your ex boyfriend feel emotional pain and suffering), but I’m trying to convince on the best way to move on and feel happiness in your life. And trust me, if you really want to show your ex boyfriend that he’s a useless loser that can replaced in a heartbeat, the best way to do it is not by seeking revenge… it’s by moving on with life and erasing all memory of him from your mind.
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About The Author: Derek Lamont is a certified marriage counselor and experienced dating coach. As editor LoveLearnings (a dating advice website), he often provides advice on rebuilding broken relationships.
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